Being Sexually Free

Recently I was given a reason the think about being sexually free. I'm sure there are people in the world that are more sexually free than me. There are also people who might be more prudish than me. Anyway, it got to thinking about what it means to be sexually free.

Are strippers sexually free? They have no shame in exhibiting their bodies. They use their sexuality to make their living. Strippers dance up on people displaying their assets. Does any of this make them sexually free?

I know a girl who relates all her sexual exploits to anyone who will listen. Is she sexually free? Is sharing your latest sexcapade the way to express yourself sexually? She goes into graphic detail everytime she gets a drink in her. Does this make her sexually free? What about the girl who has to tell everyone how wet she is? This girl is wet all the time. Is she sexually free or just bragging?

What about letting your boyfriend finger fuck you while driving a stick shift down the interstate going 80? Is that sexually free or just plain lunacy? Fucking on the back deck of your house so the neighbors can see? Picking up someone in a bar and having sex with them? Spreading your legs every time you are asked? Screwing animals? Threesomes? Foursomes? Moresomes? Having every orifice filled at once? Bondage? Phone sex? Simultaneous masturbation? Being gay? Being bi-sexual? Does any or all of this make you sexually free?

How about sending your precious puss (or cock for that matter) over the wires of the internet to anyone who asks? Is taking naked pictures of yourself and sending them to strangers sexually free? What about the people who have repeated sex with the people they meet online? Are these people sexually free?

I don't want to be fucked in the ass. Does that make the girl or the guy who takes it in the ass more free than me? I like to give oral sex. Am I more free than the girl who won't go down on you? I don't think so.

I know people who have done all of the things listed in the post. I might have even done one or two of them myself. I think being sexually free is being comfortable in your own body. Being comfortable with other people's sexuality. Knowing that you are giving and receiving pleasure in whatever way you and your partner see fit. Just because you are willing to do something that someone else isn't doesn't make you any more free than me. My sexuality belongs to me. I'm going to do with it what I will. And I'm going to enjoy myself every step of the way. I hope everybody else feels the same way about theirs.

Comments

[Caryn]

I agree. Being sexually free doesn't have to do with acts or orientation. It's about letting yourself express your sexual side however you want to.

Of course, making that kind of statement -- or any statement about sexual freedom -- gets sorta messy when you think about the really taboo things out there, and I'm mostly thinking about nonconsensual situations with children or animals.

Does sexual freedom have limits? Perhaps the limit is the addition of "without harming others" or something like that into the definition of freedom. I don't know.

I feel like I could go on and on about this. :P

[compos mentis]

Some random yet cohesive thoughts:

A generic definition of the word free that comes to mind is without cost and restraint. In this case we're not talking about paying a hooker to tie you up.

Free from negative emotional consequences - guilt, worry of pregnancy or disease. Free from negative physical consequences - disease, injury, hairy palms and blindness, not being able to shit right for a month.

Freedom from established written and moral law. The latter is somewhat relative, with the exception of having partners who are unwilling and cannot defend themselves - children, the mentally challenged, animals, rape, corpses.

In this context, sexual freedom is relative. My own idea of true sexual freedom comes from being in a loving, commited monogamous marriage with a person of the opposite sex. Even then, if one person in the union wants it more than the other, the freedom isn't there, is it? So, you have to be able to get all you want when you want. Is that really possible?

Therefore, true sexual freedom is a prevarication, an unattainable myth.

Interesting thoughts.